Temper Tantrum
Parenting is one of the Most difficult task in the existing task in this world. Now your Sweet Calm child has drastically changed into a Subborn, Aggressive person. Every individual go through this stage of adolescence. Adolscent is a Blossoming phase where an individual's body is preparing itself to turn into an Adult. Adolescents not only go through Physical changes but also Mental changes.
Not everyone is easily adaptable to change, to some people "Changes are Scary" and it's Normal. We all get sometimes scared by changes,while dealing with changes which occur within themselves,individual also get to tackle day-to-day obstacles like:
- School and Assignments
- Educational Achievements
- Thriving for parent's expectations
- Adjusting themselves to Peer groups.
Woaah! While dealing with soooo much they also go through physical, and mental changes. While being busy in their own stuffs when they turn towards someone who can understand them. They Find No one! So they turn themselves to their peers. If they are in good company they'll get help but if not then What?
They can turn them to activities that can drastically affect their health, social life and can even be drawn to perform criminal activities which can drag them to complete darkness.
I know that There's generation difference between a Parent and Child but if you really Love your child and don't want them to be drag into darkness then follow these 6 Steps:
1) Be a Friend:
If you want your child to be honest and open to you then you've to be your child's Friend. I understand that there's a Generation difference between You and and Your Child but you also need to understand, that time has evolved. The phase which you were facing in your adulthood might be your adolscent child be facing right now. Try to get involve in your child's life that doesn't mean you've to interfere in all his matters.
Believe your child. Develop the bond where your child can trust you and is able to ventilate out all his problems, insecurities with you.
Where it's necessary Hold their Hands where not let them take their own path. Even if they fail encourage them and tell them "Even if the Whole world is against them you'll always be by their side."
When you develop such bond the tendancy of your child to fall in prey of others decreases and even if there's a bit chance he'll let you know and you can save your child from becoming a prey or a victim.
2) Importance of Trust:
Trust is the most Vital Element to build any relation. Teach the importance of Trust to your teen. And when they obligate that trust then let them face their consequences.
My intention is not to "Spoon-feed" your child this way you'll ruin his future. It's very important for your child to face life experiences and also face it's consequences. For example: If you got to know that your child was taking alcohol. After your encounter he promised to never repeat this mistake. After few days you again caught him taking alcohol secretly then it's important that you let him know that he broke your trust. Let him understand his fault and ask him How will he develop the trust again?? Questioning him will help him understand his fault and will help him introspect his fault.
3) Be your child's Influencer:
- If you're stoping him to stop wasting time on screen then first stop yourself from spending a lot of your time on social sites and other stuffs.
- Being alcoholic or drug abuser parent what guidance you'll provide to your child if he ever step on being a drug user?
- Not only your behavior but your child also follows your Mentality. The way you see world and people around affect your reaction towards your outer world in form of your behavior and this trait is mimicked by your child.
- Be open-minded, be Gentle to the people who are inferior, Be a learner.
- One important point I'll add is Show your struggle to your child. Let them know that you sacrificed your new dress in order to buy them their toys. I know parents refrain such act but you need to understand that if you want your child to respect each penny which you earned or which he'll be earning no matter what his socioeconomic status be then Show him your struggle, Your Sacrifices and Hard work which you dedicate each second of your life in order to provide him one time meal.
Why you think Rich people have Rich Brats?? Because they have no idea how their parents hold such Assets. They have just seen luxuries and Comfort which is Dangerous for their later Life.
4) Appreciate and provide positive reinforcement to your Child:
Study your child and accept him with all his beauty and flaws. There are many parents who don't know their child. Yes! You Heard Right!! Reason? Well because they don't have time for their child. Here's I'm not potraying Workaholic Parents as Vamp! But you need to spend ample amount of time with your child. Earning money to secure your child's future is every parent's task, but Will that money be helpful to save your child from becoming a Victim to this cruel world?
The more you spend your time with your child the more you'll know his quality, interest and hobbies.
In this 21st Century, there's nothing from which you can't earn. So let your child discover his passion and motivate him to pursue it as his career.
5) Understand that Teens are Self-centered:
Growing up was never easy. Adolescent goes through many ups and down. Physical, Hormonal and Mental alterations that changes their life. This is a new phase in their life and there are many adjustments that require a preparation. While the adolescents are preparaing themselves for the new changes they take a lot of time and hence tend to become self-centered. This is the phase where every teenage thinks that no-one understands them so Be little Patient and hold your child whenever they need you.
6) Signs of Stress:
If your child has suddenly become aloof, spending alone time, has crying spells, caught red handed while stealing money or other valuable product then instead of screaming find the reason behind it. It might be due to being bullied.
Other stressors can be:
* School work load.
* Assignments
* Educational Achievement
* Heartbreaks.
Take seriously your child's stress as bing in denial or deviating your child's stress can lead to Depression.
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